(We’re working on it!) Fascinating therapy session about respect.A young woman was telling me,with tears in her eyes, how she hated men because they don’t respect her from the git-go.She has to earn their respect.And it makes her really tired and angry to have to do that.
Got me thinking about the different levels of respect-hierarchical and human.For example, yesterday I saw a young Arab man who was very respectful of his father.But his father was completely contemptuous of him for his ADD.The father kept accusing him of being lazy and stupid, Nevertheless,the son maintained his decorum.But there’s a problem here.The father owes him a basic human respect even if it’s his son.As does a boss or a teacher-a basic human respect which is complementary to the hierarchical respect that we learn about in traditional culture.The formula ,for example, of “Respect your parents and respect your teachers” is true.But it needs to be complemented by basic human respect regardless of the hierarchical relationship.
Fascinating subject really.I believe our Prophet Muhammad understood this well even if many of his followers don’t.I’ve got some work to do on this myself.
And look at this!
Honor(Respect,ihtiram)
Arabic sharaf, ird, ihtiram, izzah, or namus. Culturally understood as a sign of God’s pleasure and part of one’s Muslim identity. May be displayed through ownership of land and resources, family solidarity, the chastity of women( and men), and the personal characteristics of courage, generosity, hospitality, independence, wisdom, honesty, self-control, actions guided by reason,disinclination to conflict, avoidance of degradation of others, mastery of culture, and verbal skill, particularly in poetry recitation. “disinclination to conflict and avoidance of degradation of others” Ajib! Awesome!