The Fundamental Struggle

There is the Divine Will.It is transmitted to us through the revelations of the Prophets a.s. ,through the teachings of the Saints(awliya) and through our personal moment-to-moment inspirations,when our hearts are clean.

Then there is the “nafs’.It is socially programmed and run by fear, anger and desire.It constantly fights against the Divine Will.It wants to be Lord.Estaghirullah.

Of course,in the long run, the Divine Will wins out.bIn the short term,however, it might look like the ‘nafs’ is winning(wars,bloodshed,cruelty,corruption everywhere).But Ultimately the Divine reigns supreme.It is our obligation to believe that and realize that in the deepest recesses of our being.That is Tawakuul(trust in God) and that is Tasleem(submitting to our Creator).

Salaams,Ibrahim

Social Processes

FBI informed in advance about Florida shooter and warned.But they didn’t do anything about it! This is NOT just a problem with one institution or one negligent person.This is a systemic problem.It’s called DEAFNESS and it exists to varying extents in ALL institutions in modern society.Instead of relying on the Three Doors of Perception-Seeing,Hearing and Feeling- we rely on rules,procedures and logic.This is the result! We have intentionally dehumanized(‘rationalized’ them,I think they call it!) our social processes.Can we really be surprised that we have inhuman results?!

Contradictions

Contradictions are not a problem for Reality. It is replete with them. Contradictions are only a problem for the mind!

So it depends where you stand on the map vs. territory problem. If you believe that the map is reality, contradictions are a problem. If you believe in the territory, however, there is no problem. Up to you lol!

Confronting the Fear of Death

Despite overwhelming evidence from some of the most trustworthy sources,such as Prophets ,mystics and saints and most recently near-death experiencers, one still can encounter episodes of fearing death in one’s being. It comes up insidiously, like an uneasy feeling accompanied with a thought pattern that sounds something like this:”What is going to happen to me when I leave this earth-bound body?How can I possibly live otherwise”. Given what we should know about the after-life from even a cursory look at the data that is out there,this reaction makes no sense.I have concluded that it is actually some kind of programming in our D.N.A. designed to preserve the specious.Nevertheless,we have to deal with it without freaking out.

In fact,whole schools of psychotherapy, like Yalom’s Existential Therapy, have been developed on the basis of “fear of death”. We can fully understand why.However,their enterprise is futile as it is based on spiritual illiteracy- modernistic tendencies towards atheism and agnosticism. I often told my own patients”You cannot cure the fear of Death with psychotherapy,nor with medication.It is ultimately a spiritual question.Only faith or actual spiritual ,mystical experience can cure it!

If we go back to the evidence for a moment, we will see that a theme that emerges on a regular basis,both from the experience and teachings of mystics and from n.d.ers is that this world is not our real home.We are here,so to speak,on a mission-actually kind of like sub-contractors of God.Like any sub-contractors we are accountable for our actions,our behaviours and our attitudes.Ultimately our purpose is to learn,-about the basic principles of existence and about love,and to accomplish our mission,which we had,in fact, agreed to before coming.The consequences of us doing our job properly is literally cosmic.So this is serious stuff-not to be taken lightly-as entertainment for example.

Given theses realities,what do we do about our intermittent bouts of fear of Death.Here is my suggestion.It comes from two sources.1)Humanistic Psychology which developed the technique of ‘affirmations where we affirm what we already know about ourselves to’ combat our neuroses.Example:”Despite what my parents told me, I am not a complete incompetent(perhaps because I left some film on the glasses I washed lol) but am capable of doing good things with my life”2)The other source is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy where we address dysfunctional beliefs.In this case the dysfunctional belief is: “After death I enter a permanent void of non-existence”.

I once met one of the leading practitioners of CBT in Quebec,someone I had studied with during residency training.After we completed our studies,he had sub-specialized in CBT and had become somewhat of a celebrity on the Quebecois psychology teaching circuit. I confronted him with the limitations of his approach and CBT in general in my own experience .Despite all the hype and the manipulated research surrounding it,it was never as effective, in reality, as the research seemed to imply! His answer was interesting”Forget about all those techniques and use what really works-“Self -Talk”.

So the methodology presented here is a combination of affirmations and self-talk.It goes like this:You say to yourself-in writing or out loud or silently, in whatever situation you find yourself in:”This is not my permanent abode.I am here on a short-lived visit -on contract.I am ready to go back home when my Lord calls me”. ( If you are adverse to religious terminology you can replace the word Lord with Universe lol) This practice can be done anywhere and is more effective the more you do it.It is like the spiritual practice of contemplating death that so many traditions including our own- Sufism- recommend.” Try it out.You may be surprised at the results.Salaams,Ibrahim

Choosing the Light!

Every Saturday I meet with an old friend. His two parents were University professors but he himself is a self-taught philosopher.”Tom”,I said”How come when people are confronted with the choice between light and darkness, more often than not, they choose darkness?! “That’s an easy one “ he responded. “Because choosing the light requires courage”He’s not a Sufi but that was a Sufi statement if ever I heard one and I immediately recognized its veracity”Exactly”I thought. The darkness is social conformity. And going counter- current requires courage. Ajib!

Don’t Worry about what Others Think!

It has been a very icy winter in Montreal-probably in Toronto as well.It has given me the chance to recount the story of my grandfather.He came from Russia in the early 20th century(1906 I believe) and was in the habit of screwing cheese-graters into the bottom of his boots in the winter to get more traction.They didn’t sell boot crampons then like they have now.He was in his eighties by then ,but his Canadian neighbours convinced him that we didn’t do that in Canada and it looked foolish.He listened to them,fell on the ice the first winter he didn’t wear his cheese-graters,broke his hip and died within a few days.He was my favourite person in the family,the only other Truth-seeker I knew, so I was very sad.

But the lesson was screaming out to me! “Don’t worry about what others think!” That is an important lesson for many,many Muslims nowadays amongst others and of course,for the reader as well.Shakespeare was right on when he said”To thine own self be true”.I hope you can do that in whatever way seems right to you.The only ‘other’ that counts is Allah,himself. Salaams,Ibrahim

Travel- the new god!

People have traveled throughout the ages,for many reasons,but never to the extent of nowadays.Now one might think this is just because the technology(specifically airplanes) has gotten so much better but actually the reason is much more insidious than that.Travel has become a cult-a form of worship, the highest order of activity that man can aspire to.So when I say,i am retiring a lot of people say”Are you going to be traveling?” My answer is  emphatic on that point: “No! Only if there is a good reason.I did that when I was younger and had the time to apply whatever learning I got from the travel.As an exercise in entertainment, I will take a pass”

Allan Bloom,the American philosopher from the University of Chicago, wrote a book in the eighties called”The Closing of the American Mind”.In it was a chapter entitled “From Travel to Tourism”. This title summarizes the whole problem.Traveling, that used to have a specific purpose to it, had now become a consumer item. It is promoted by”The Tourism Industry” that is one of the largest industries in many countries.This encourages people to travel as a form of entertainment, much as they go to the cinema or perhaps even more aptly as they go to the circus.I remember my own parents,may Allah forgive them for their misdeeds and reward them for their good ones, caught up in this maelstrom.”So what did you learn ,Dad?” I would ask him after his trip to Mexico.”Oh there were beautiful ruins and ,even better,the price of food was so much cheaper”.I see” I thought.”So you spent $2000.00 to save $1 on a loaf of bread” I thought, without saying it out loud.

I am ,of course,oversimplifying but the point is well taken,nevertheless.I remember the young Americans in Europe “doing” countries’! “Wow,we did 12 countries in 13 days” they would say .Impressive!The most ” impressive’ travellers I met were the Australians and New Zealanders.They would go traveling for years( ‘chronic travellers’ I called them) with the justification that they were so far away that they might never get the chance again.I had never seen people in such a deplorable state(outside of U.S. slums) in my entire life!They looked haggard,miserable,alienated.And they seemed completely unaware of their state! They were convinced,like the proverbial donkey chasing the carrot, that their next destination would bring them happiness! Rome,that’s not where it’s at. But Florence,that’s where I’ll discover glory.Italy, pfff! Greece is the place to be etc.,etc.Hedonism,all over again and doomed to failure as always.

Of course,there are valid reasons to travel.Visiting family members(although the reason relatives are often so far away is part of the modern dysfunction),studying a subject one needs to know about,spending time with a spiritual teacher,helping refugees,peace-keeping missions,pilgrimage etc.Yes,there are valid forms of travel.But they need to be purposeful not spurious.And much travel nowadays is of the latter sort.

I remember one of the first forms of the traveling bug that I found interesting.They were Québecois people(we called them French Canadians in those days lol).Instead of ‘doing’ as many countries as they could or catching some rays of sunshine in a southern destination for a week to escape from the doldrums of their life in Canada,they would take off the winter and spend it in one place-like Mexico for example.They would then rent an apartment(this was before Airbnb!) and learn the local cooking,study the language and try to mix with the people there.They came away with some real learning and expansion of consciousness.Far different from The American Tourist.

My first trip overseas was to Europe.I was conceiving of the ’10 countries in 5 weeks’ kind of imbroglio when the absurdity of it dawned on me.It started as a vague sense of alienation.I looked at my friend Alan(we were both taking a break from med school at the time) and said:”This is not the right way to do it,Alan.Let’s make this into a learning experience.”We were quite compulsive at the time. So we decided we were going to make it into a history of art course.And it worked! I immediately felt a sense of relief. Our trip had become purposeful.And I never forgot the art I learnt about on that trip.

In the spiritual tradition that I practice,Islamic Sufism,wasting time(‘lawh’ in Arabic) is prohibited.We are here for a purpose and that is our contract on Earth.We have the right ,even the obligation,to rest and relax,But we do not have the right, which has now become a social norm, to waste time and frame our lives around good times and recreation.That is the way of “loss” in our tradition.Think about it! Salaams,Ibrahim

 

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